We all carry shame within us. The fear of not being enough.
The fear of being too loud. Too different. Too much.
For many, fetish becomes more than self-expression. A place of self-discovery. Of community. Of visibility. Of pride.
Fetisch heilt — “fetish heals” — tells my story.
My Story
For years I have been volunteering in Munich's gay and queer scene, especially at Sub, and at S'AG — a prevention group that means a great deal to me.
I am a survivor of abuse and violence. It shaped me deeply, and for a long time it made me associate anything to do with conventional masculinity with fear and rejection.
Through my community work, I eventually found my way to the Münchner Löwen Club, and discovered something unexpected: a space where strength means trust, not dominance. A place where I didn't have to hide my pain, but could transform it.
Here I was allowed to be who I am. I discovered my fetish: not as a secret to be kept, but as a part of me I can be proud of.
When the title was renamed from Bavarian Mister Leather to Bavarian Mister Fetish in 2024, I put myself forward as a candidate at the end of 2025. At the end of March 2026 I won the election. Since then I have worn the title and the sash, and with them the responsibility to be visible and to inspire others.
What drives me
Fetisch heilt is more than a slogan to me. It stands for the idea that fetish is not about shame — but about self-determination, expression, and belonging.
For many people, the community is a place where they no longer have to hide, but can finally be seen.
Visibility is not a luxury — it is a safe space. Sometimes even a healing space.
It heals when we stop twisting ourselves to fit. It heals when we experience real solidarity. When shame becomes pride. When invisibility becomes community.
As Bavarian Mister Fetish I want to encourage people to be visible: to stop making themselves smaller and to stand up for one another.
Fetish heals when we give it space. And we all deserve a little healing.
Schedule
With this title I want to open up conversations about queer identity, self-acceptance, and community. This journey isn't a checklist of obligations for me — it's a personal starting point for something bigger.
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Your Stories
People share their stories with Fetisch heilt.
The texts are personal accounts by their authors and reflect solely their own perspective.
Anonymous submissions welcome.
Fetisch heilt is an invitation to become visible.
Not perfect. Not polished. Just honest.
Because sometimes healing begins exactly where we stop hiding.
Be visible. Be you. Be proud.
Münchner Löwen Club e.V.
Sub e.V.